Why for the system is different from why for the mind.
The question to the system, "Why did this problem occur?" will help clarify where the problem lies and lead to a solution.
The question to the mind, "Why did this problem happen?" often hurts the other person even more.
Related: Delving into matters of the heart is harmful.
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